“Monogamy: An Observation”
By Ron Stultz
From April 1971 until late January of 1972, I was a U.S.
Army Lieutenant commanding an air defense missile battery in Camp Howze South
Korea.
Although I do not know the exact numbers, it was my
understanding at the time, that there were about 50,000 American soldiers in
South Korea and about 3 times that many Korean prostitutes. Interestingly
enough, I suspect the number of prostitutes to be a more accurate number than
the number of US soldiers as in every Korean village or city of any size, there
was a Venereal Disease (VD) clinic and prostitutes had to be “inspected” once a
week and have their VD card punched that they were free of disease. Hard to
believe now but normal for that day and time.
Life in Korea as a Korean woman was not easy. Camp Howze
was located north of Seoul in a rice farming area with only small villages,
dotted here and there and a woman either worked in the fields as a wife or
daughter of a farmer or was a prostitute. Many women became prostitutes because
they family sold them when they were only girls to some older prostitute who
was their pimp providing clothing, shelter and food in return for keeping most
of the money from their prostitution activity.
When I was sent to Korea, I was part of a completely new
unit that had been formed in El Paso, Texas the year before. Ever soldier in
the unit had either come straight from basic training and was the best of the
best or was a highly experienced non-commission officer or NCO as the colonel who
formed the unit had been in the personnel section of the Pentagon and had hand
picked his new unit's soldiers.
So in 1971, about 200 men, most under the age of 22 and
unmarried were sent from the United States and our culture to South Korea. At
first, many of the soldiers did not know what to make of all the prostitutes
available to them but after a while, most soldiers did frequent the small bars,
which were in every little town or village.
Prostitutes ranged from very high class and thus expensive
to very low class and a guaranteed penicillin shot or perhaps more than one
(anyone who had to go the camp doctor for catching a VD more than once a month,
had to attend lectures on how to select a better class of woman!). Near the end
of the month when a soldier was usually out of money, a low class prostitute
could be had for as little as an US Army ball point pen. The highest class
prostitutes usually only hung out at the Officer’s club and could run up to $20 or
more per night!
And so, 200 horny men were let loose on a prostitute
population of at least 3 or 4 times than many and at first, many of the
soldiers tried to go through every prostitute in the region. Something I almost
expected and accepted but then, after being there for about 3 or 4 months, something
strange started to happen. Instead of most soldiers being with a different
prostitute every night or when ever they were not on duty, most selected one and
“settled down.” What I mean by “settled down” is that they actually moved some
of their belongings to the hooch or small house of the prostitute and the
soldier and prostitute took up living together. There was no economic advantage
to this movement to monogamy, rather all I could see was that monogamy was the
natural or preferred state for men. I know, I know, our media and others seem
to convey that men, all men, have affairs and monogamy is something women
prefer and men do not but that is not what I observed in South Korea.
Given every opportunity to be with a different woman every
night, soldiers eventually decided to select only one and then stay with that
one. Strange, isn’t it! Oh, I do not mean to say that every one of the 200
soldiers "settled down", as there were married soldiers like me that never
bought the services of a prostitute and some soldiers were with a different
woman every night but of those soldiers who did "use" prostitutes, the
overwhelming majority settled into a monogamist relationship.
When I returned from Korea, I sent the Army a letter
suggesting I study this phenomenon to determine if there was some sort of
education or other actions that the Army could take to improve soldier moral
but I never heard a thing back from the Pentagon.
Monogamy.